June 2024
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“There is no standard way of being, or knowing, or perceiving. Although one has to talk about normality or mean or average or deviation or standard deviations in a sort of statistical sense, in the biological sense, variation is of the essence”
Useful Fact
Depictions of penises in historical paintings reflect changing perceptions of the ideal penis size.
In paintings depicting nude males, the size of the penis has gradually increased throughout the past seven centuries, and especially after the 20th century.
This observation illustrates the changing sociocultural inputs into male body image and emphasises the need for improved understanding of the sociocultural factors associated with the perception of penis size in men.
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𝚆𝚑𝚊𝚝'𝚜 𝙾𝚗 𝙾𝚞𝚛 𝙼𝚒𝚗𝚍? Anal, anal is on our mind.🍑 Why don't we talk about it more? We have some thoughts.
Read on & get behind it, if you want.
There are different ways to have anal play. Putting fingers or a tongue (rimming) around/inside, putting a sex toy (with a flared base!) around/inside, or a penis inside someone’s anus.
𝗔𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘆 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲 𝗲𝗻𝗷𝗼𝘆𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲 of any gender or orientation. Regardless of your sex or sexuality! Let’s break the stigma & challenge taboos around who can enjoy & feel pleasure from anal play.
Sex should be pleasurable & fun. If anal play feels good for you, there is a reason. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝘂𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲 𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆, 𝗮𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗶𝘀.
Remember:
🍑𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 & 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁 - Keep checking in!
🍑The anus is sensitive so start gently & use plenty of water-based 𝗹𝘂𝗯𝗲.
🍑Use 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗼𝗺𝘀 on the sex toy/penis, oral dam for rimming and gloves for fingering to prevent the transmission of bacteria & STIs. Make sure you get a new condom if you switch from the anus to other genitals or between partners.
🍑Even if there’s no penetration with the penis, STIs can be transmitted. 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗮𝗻 𝗦𝗧𝗜 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁 every 6 - 12 months, when you change partners or if you show symptoms.
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Campaign & Events
Stigma, suspicion and a lack of support.
That’s With You We Can’s view on why only 10% of sexual assaults are reported in Australia.
As a result, sexual assault victims are grossly under-represented and do not receive the social or judicial validation that they deserve.
While systemic reform is slow-moving, With You We Can is fighting for victims now, by empowering victims to fight for each other. If we create understanding around our criminal justice system, we change outcomes for victims everywhere.
Know Your Websites
WH&Y brings together a network of researchers, clinicians, policymakers and young people to address the barriers that prevent Australia's teenagers from getting the health care they need and deserve.
Add your name to their mailing list to stay up to date on their progress, and to join them in being a champion for the Teenage Decade.
Who are?
The Heartland Project connects LGBTIQA+ people seeking asylum in search of a home with LGBTIQA+ hosts and flatmates in Sydney.
Here you can view or advertise safe, affordable, and inclusive rooms for LGBTIQA+ people seeking asylum in Sydney.
You can also find a list of relevant services and links to community events.
On the Blog
According to the plain talking folks at The Line;
Consent is an agreement that happens without manipulation, threats, or head games.
Consent is mutual – everyone has to agree, regardless of their gender.
Consent must be continuous – anyone can stop at any time and can change their mind at any point.
Consent isn't all-encompassing – just because someone's into one thing doesn't mean they're signing up for everything.
Consent is definite – it isn't a 'maybe' or an 'I think so'.
Consent can only be given voluntarily – so don't be trying the old 'You would if you loved me', 'Everyone else is' or 'But I want it so bad it huuuuurts...' Consent can't be given through pressuring someone, or any bargaining or threats... even if you think those tactics might lead to you getting what you want.
Resource
Launched in 2018, the, SECCA App, is a free innovative resource accessible via the SECCA website to all those seeking to learn and teach about relationships and sexuality.
This resource was the first of its kind and allows educators, carers, service providers and family members unprecedented support in teaching sexuality and its many topics to people of all abilities, across the life span.
Diary Dates
Our exciting line up of guests for On The Couch in 2024 includes:
Dr Tessa Opie from In Your Skin with Kerrin Bradfield, Laura Crozier from Youth Affairs Council of Victoria and Rachel Wotton with Mohammed Samrah & Josef Garrington from ACON.
Register and get your free tickets to be in the live online audience for On The Couch episodes HERE.
Watch or listen to previous On The Couch episodes HERE.
Complete free modules about sexual & reproductive health in your own time.